The art of understanding your mate

Marriage can be wonderful – and frustrating.

There are no perfect marriages for the simple reason that there are no perfect people, and no one person can satisfy all of one’s needs. The difficulty of achieving a workable marriage is compounded enormously by genetic differences between any two persons. Their environmental backrounds are different, as are their personalities, needs, goals, drives, and emotional responses.

A young woman may know intellectually that it is impossible for two imperfect people to achieve a perfect marriage, yet at a deep feeling level she entertains a romantic dream of perfect fulfillment whit a husband who is gentle and considerate, yet strong and wise – a man who will meet all her needs. She wants to be protected, cherished, loved, yet she desires complete freedom and autonomy. She will often push and test the limits just to make sure they are there, and to test her husbands strength. She receives a sense of security from knowing that he is strong to know what is expected of her, but without limiting her freedom of choice. She wants to be appreciated and to have her self-identity reinforced by oft-repeated signs of recognition, approval and affection.

She wants, basically to be helper, not the boss, but she will seem to seek dominance as she pushes and tests. She desires to control within her own sphere, which involves the home and children, yet she needs a husband’s concern and strength. She wants her “sphere of influence” to be reasonably flexible, depending upon her fluctuating emotional needs; she wants to have affection expressed in many ways, both great and small.

Cecil G. Osborne, D.D

SYC

The time in Malaysia is going very fast. So many activities...when you get adopted and feel comfortable in that country. I am happy I have seen so many places and experienced so much already since 23 of January. And especially I met many nice people, and made good friends. God has been providing to me all what I need. I took part in SYC (Sabah Youth for Christ) which took place in one amazingly beautiful resort, it was wondeerful experience. Timetable was busy. Especially I liked prayer room. Morning started at 5 am in prayer room. Followed by breakfast and meetings. The moto was" Pastor Cody encouraged to be fearless as Daniel and his 3 friends. If we are in fire like 3 friends of Daniel then we can see Jesus clearly with us. Lets be fearless and not look what can be fearful ahead. If we choose for God there will be no fear. God is love, and there is no fear in love. 1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. 
Lets use every opportunity to witness becouse there is a great reward. Maybe we cant see reward right away but we will see it later. 1 Corinthians 3:14 If any man's work abide which he hath built thereupon, he shall receive a reward. 
SYC finished with wall climbing...was exciting.
Next day we went on a Sapi island. Snorkeling was fun. There were big lizards coming from the forrest for their meal (leftovers from the restaurant). I have never seen such a big lizards before.
After beach we enjoyed meal in vegetarian restaurant.

Let God plan for you!

The time is flying. We are getting clouser for coming of Jesus. I have been meeting many different people that have made big impact on my life! Thankful for that! God bless you all with this quatation:

Christ in His life on earth made no plans for Himself. He accepted God’s plans for Him, and day by day the Father unfolded His plans. So should we depend upon God, that our lives may be the simple outworking of His will. As we commit our ways to Him, He will direct our steps. {Pr 226.3}

Too many, in planning for a brilliant future, make an utter failure. Let God plan for you. As a little child, trust to the guidance of Him who will “keep the feet of His saints.” 1 Samuel 2:9. God never leads His children otherwise than they would choose to be led, if they could see the end from the beginning and discern the glory of the purpose which they are fulfilling as co-workers with Him.—(Ministry of Healing, 478, 479.) {Pr 226.4}

Listen to this beautiful song: http://www.adventistonline.com/video/god-s-way-is-the-best-way-1

Sabbath

We had wonderful Sabbath in church. Youth from Japan made a special program, with singing and witnessing. "Where was God when terrible tsunami came?" were many asking... Speaker made conclusion that God had still everything under control, He was still there. Satan’s plan of temptation is always the same. While everything moves prosperously, people think that they have faith. But when suffering, disaster, or disappointment comes, they lose heart. A faith that is dependent on circumstances or surroundings, that lives only when everything goes smoothly, is not a genuine faith. {CTr 107.4}

For nations as well as for individuals, the path of obedience to God is the path of safety and happiness, while that of transgression leads only to disaster and defeat. {CC 145.6}

After church we enjoyed the nature.

Are you burdened, anxious,...?

And he who seeks to give light to others will himself be blessed. "There shall be showers of blessing." He that watereth shall be watered also himself. Proverbs 11:25

Humble your

selves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that in due time he may exalt you. Cast all your anxieties on him, for He cares about you. Be sober, be watchful. Your adversary, the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking some to devour. Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same experience of suffering is required of your brotherhood throughout the world. (1 Peter 5:6-9)

Our life can be burdensome if we think and contemplate much what others think and say about our life.

Be satisfied, thankful and happy where you are, who you are, what you do. You are created to be a blessing to others, and be blessed by others...there is no coinsidence with God.

Remember the Bible verse...Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in thy sight, O lord, my strength, and my Redeemer. Psalms 19:14

Restaurant opening

Eve is now ready to go to Germany for medical missionary training. Friends and relatives poured her over with flour, eggs, water balloons as a custom for saying good bye. Poor girl, she had to wash her hairs twise to get rid of egg smell...but good thing is that eggs are nourishing for the hairs, makes them shiny and strong.

Green paste consists of rice flour, starch. This will be mixed with cocoonut drink. I tasted today the drink and it was really good. Lots of ice inside.

Hermanto and Nellia opened restaurant just behind our clinic. I helped with Eve and Sanessa to cut bitter melon.

First day relatives and friends enjoyed the food for free.

Secure life's best results

Jesus came to this earth to accomplish the greatest work ever accomplished among men. He came as God's ambassador, to show us how to live so as to secure life's best results. What were the conditions chosen by the Infinite Father for His Son? A secluded home in the Galilean hills; a household sustained by honest, self-respecting labor; a life of simplicity; daily conflict with difficulty and hardship; self-sacrifice, economy, and patient, gladsome service; the hour of study at His mother's side, with the open scroll of Scripture; the quiet of dawn or twilight in the green valley; the holy ministries of nature; the study of creation and providence; and the soul's communion with God--these were the conditions and opportunities of the early life of Jesus. {AH 132.2}

climbing the hill

Made on top of the hill. Good exercise after work.

Coming back in dark wasnt easy...especially with slippers on the stony craggy paths. I was bit ahead from others, I didnt had any light even cell phone to show the way, I almost thought I lost the track..but guess what, there were some smart people who believe in God. They put white wooden crosses after every 10 meters to show the way. What a wonderful experiences. We have to behold the cross our Jesus Christ to be always on track, and not be lost. Even in dark times there is light!!!

Fresh coconut water

Today I bought nice big green coconut on the market for 2 RM, and had a tasty coconut drink at home...yummy.

Coconut Water is More Nutritious than whole milk - Less fat and NO cholesterol!
Coconut Water is More Healthy than Orange Juice - Much lower calories
Coconut Water is Better than processed baby milk- It contains lauric acid, which is present in human mother's milk
Coconut water is naturally sterile -- Water permeates though the filtering husk!
Coconut water is a universal donor-- Its identical to human blook plasma
Coconut Water is a Natural Isotonic Beverage - The same level we have in our blood.
Coconut water has saved lives in 3rd world countries thru Coconut IV.
"Coconut water is the very stuff of Nature, biologically Pure, full of Natural Sugars, Salts, and Vitamins to ward off fatigue... and is the next wave of energy drinks BUT natural!", according to Mortin Satin, Chielf of the United Nation's Food & Agriculture Organization.

Tamparuli town

Rambutan fruit is rich in carbohydrate, protein, fat, phosphorus, iron, calcium and vitamin C. Eating five fruit in a day can seriously decrease the chance of cancer. Rambutan fruit is also very effective in the treatment of lowering blood pressure, diabetis and dysentry.

Choose the red coloured ones.

Tamparuli is a small town and a sub-district of Tuaran on the west coast of Sabah, Malaysia. It is populated mainly by native Dusuns, while a sizeable Chinese community runs most of the shops in the town proper. (Wikipedia)

Clinic is in town and our home is 5 min drive from it, on the countryside.